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Subject :Asperger's Syndrome..
28-03-2010 23:03:23
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Subject :Re:Asperger's Syndrome..
29-03-2010 00:06:03
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Ummm, what to say.. I am an Aspie, diagnosed at 37. I love Jesus, my church famiy, my home, my dog, gardening and collecting blue bottles. All right now all you Aspies out there, crawl out from under your clam shells* and introduce yourselves....
(*Aspies, this means don't be shy, lol!) |
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Subject :Re:Asperger's Syndrome..
29-03-2010 13:26:23
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| courage |
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hello His daughter
Still learning how to contact people...
Thank you so much for the information you gave/shared of yourself........it will help with my daughter. Theres so much i dont understand and i forget she has it at times and know it doesnt help her at all. She has learnt to show empathy........when reminded of it lol. But i know she loves and feels deeply.....a beautiful girl.
I can ask her how she feels about something........the responce is normally..."i dont know"....and it reminds me yet again.........of the aspergers. Its hard to tell when she is genuinally excited or nervous instead.......people take her wrong alot........at least as parents ...we have her more downpact lol. She also takes people wrong.......like "live" explained.
So appreciative of your reply.....look forward to keeping in contact.
Thank you ....
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Subject :Re:Asperger's Syndrome..
30-03-2010 00:15:07
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Hi courage,
(love your name by the way!) I don't have children so I can't speak from a parent's perspective but one thing I find helps me a lot for myself at the moment is my Matrioska doll. It is also known as a Russian Doll, you get them from the $2 shops for $6 or so. There are many dolls inside this wooden doll, each one getting smaller and smaller. If I am not sure how I am feeling I take all the dolls out and line them up and try to put them back together again. If I can put them all back together it means I feel ok. If I leave some pieces of the doll out then I know I'm feeling broken like the doll. If I am having a REALLY bad day then only the smallest one is left.. I am going to explore other uses of it like a sandtray and I can bury it if I feel overwhelmed etc. somehow doing something tactile means a whole lott more than talking.
Also it may help you to remember that the time we can talk the LEAST is the time when we feel overwhelmed the MOST and unfortunately that is also the time that people want MOST for us to talk... which makes us feel pressured and anxious... which makes us want to talk even less.... and so on. providing a repetitive, comforting stimming solution is best, depending on the sensory needs of the person. For me, tactile things work best. I have a massage mat, footspa with marbles in it, an eyepad I made out of material stuffed with rice (very comforting to block out the world and feel better with) coloured Christmas lights up in my living room all year round, a lovely herb/sensory garden, a home made mosaic table I can touch.....etc....etc....etc. In the car if I am really upset I can play the same soothing music over and over and over...
Well as usual I am full of advice and low on emotional support but I'm afraid that is me. Ask away I will never be sick of writing about this subject lol.
Praying for you sister! |
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Subject :Re:Asperger's Syndrome..
30-03-2010 00:16:02
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P.S. also Makaton |
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Subject :Re:Asperger's Syndrome..
30-03-2010 10:14:37
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| courage |
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His daughter
How right you are! When my daughter is really upset, she's quiet and that is when i want to know whats going on and how i can help!
She came home from school as all is well, but i just knew something was not right......i asked her what happenend. Oh dear, tears came, she's being teased at school and shoved a boy who hurt her back and she got in trouble. Not fair and she doesnt understand what she did wrong. She wants to leave school and is getting upset about how the kids behave...
Thank you so much for answering me. Though you have no children, just the advice on how you cope, helps. My daughter does origami when upset, she's been doing it "all the time" lately, everywhere we go and at school. Shes quite gifted at it and spends alot of detail doing them.
Bless you honey.
Courage
ooxxoxo
ps. I love giving encouragement to people, thus the name. Courage is its shortend version and a quaility we all need. |
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Subject :Re:Re:Asperger's Syndrome..
03-04-2010 22:52:28
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Hi Courage,
Sorry to hear about the school dramas. Now I'm really going to get on my high horse 'cos you've hit a sore spot in me without realising! lol. So much so that I couldn't respond straight away.
I went through that too and ended up changing schools. The next school was a bit better but only because I went totally into my shell and was pretty untouchable. I left at the age of 16, worked for a year and returned to a free-dress school for the final two years and did really, really well. Leaving for a while was the best thing I ever did, it gave me time to rebuild my shattered confidence and self esteem, dare to dream again and even made a friend. That was in the 80s and nowadays there are many more options available through TAFEs etc. If the school she is at is not helping then they do not have adequate anti-bullying processes in place and the bullying/teasing is unlikely to stop.
I think your daughter is right, she should leave. There are other wayys to get an education and learn social skills, these days. TAFEs, learning centres, community houses, online courses, mentoring, tutoruing, CAE, correspondence......and the good ol' school of life. I have met lots of people who have completed the last couple of years of High School through other organisations one subject at a time and combined courses in creative ways. But she may need a break first. |
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Subject :Re:Asperger's Syndrome..
05-04-2010 21:52:47
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It depends on what activities one gets involved with after leaving. Amateurr theatre taught me about eye contact, body language, taking turns and teamwork. Orchestras and choirs taught me teamwork too. I learnt social chit chat in the tea and coffee breaks at these activities. I learnt about group activities at Uni during tutorials. I found the schoolyard too unstructured and confusing to learn, but in these environments I thrived and when I told my Supervisor a month ago that I have ASD the first thing she said was 'but you don't have any problems socialising!' and I said 'But you didn't see how I was as a child'. Everybody's different I guess. |
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Subject :Re:Asperger's Syndrome..
06-04-2010 11:08:59
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Hi
Thank you for your input.....its much appreciated and valued. My daughter is on holidays now.......and loving it!!! lol Shes now go- karting with her dad today, she loves speed, oh dear We are still seeking more info about her leaving school but at this time, feel she needs to stay and the school is doing everything they can for her now. With a little help from us parents heh heh.
I really do value any input someone writes and soak it all up! The more i learn, the better and coming from those who haved lived it, its precious. Thank you again.
Blessings to you all.
Love Courage oxox |
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